You’ve been leading a more conscious and spiritual life, creating positive energy in your home. Yet your partner doesn’t seem willing to come along with you on this journey. Your relationship seems to frequently take a negative turn, and no matter what you do, your partner continues being resistant to change.
Here are four steps to help you come out on the other side, together with your partner.
1. Acknowledge your part in it
It might not be easy to accept, but things you say or do might be triggering negative reactions in your partner. It may be that your constant work at “create positive energy” reminds your partner of the things they need to work on, and the fact that they are not ready to change. Their resistance may feel like aggression or negativity to you. Accepting where they are is your first step, honor the struggle they are in.
2. Wait it out if need be
You don’t have to solve everything right now. When the negative cycle begins,, don’t try to change it with positive thoughts. Don’t even go to any thoughts, simply stop. Just do something together that you both love doing, this will take you to your hearts, and out of your heads. The answers you are looking for will then reveal themselves at the right time, when you are relaxed, and when you are not obsessed with answers. The mind wants immediate results, but the heart knows when it’s the real.
3. Give yourselves credit for past success
Having a relationship is not a finality. A relationship is your journey to love, all of yourself and all of your partner, to take the joys and the sorrows into your heart. You’ve done this before, many times, because otherwise, you wouldn’t still be a couple.
Have faith that, like you’ve done before, you’ll succeed. Remembering these past successes will give you the strength to move forward. Accept everything that your partner is, here and now. Trust the power of your relationship.
4. Enhance the energy flow between you
Instead of talking about energy, take action. Do things that will bring positive energy into your lives together. Play your partner’s favorite music, dance, make love. Eat good food together, take a long walk, holding hands. Let the energy of love take over, and inspire you to do more fun things.
Don’t expect anything in return, do what you do out of love. Trust that the energy of love knows where to take you. Positive thoughts can’t create love, a happy heart can.