7 Essentials to an Evolutionary Relationship

We are facing a crisis; the sacred power of love within the human soul is being diverted and distracted by ignorance, by greed, and by the pursuit of power, so that it can never cleanse and transform the world.

An evolutionary relationship is a relationship that helps us come into the realness of our world, take responsibility for it, and pursue our sacred purpose with a partner. When two lovers come together in this dynamic, loving consciousness, they will create a transformational field of sacred, loving energy, which will feed and inspire their work in reality.

There are seven essentials for this tremendously powerful form of evolutionary love to grow.

A Devotion to the Divine

It is essential that both partners need to be individually involved in a deep and passionate devotion to the Divine, because without both people centering their life in the Divine, the relationship will not be able to escape the ordinary. From the very beginning, the relationship must be centered in the Divine.

The relationship must be undertaken in the conscious presence of the Divine, for the Divine’s great work in the Universe to manifest. Only a relationship that is centered in this higher power, and that has the Divine as the primary factor in the relationship, will be able to withstand the challenges of life of spiritual service in the world.

A Mastery of Solitude

Good boundaries are a necessity, as is an ability to be alone with one’s self. They realize the ability of solitude is the source of inner revelation and inner wealth; they understand that the work of solitude, and the work that goes into solitude, the deep contemplation of one’s gifts and one’s faults, is sacred, and the secret foundation of a healthy relationship.

In many relationships, what is the most threatening is the solitude of the other. In an evolutionary relationship, what can fulfill one partner the most is the other’s solitude, because they understand that this solitude has the potential to create a wealth of generosity, insight, and creativity.

An Equality of Power

In a true evolutionary relationship, there is an equality of power, an equality born of a profound acknowledgment of the dignity and sacredness of the other’s soul. One is not the beloved, and the other only the lover. Both partners see in each other the face of the Divine, bringing the essence of divine truth, embodied as love. This gifts each person with the energy, freedom and joy, that they need to go out into the world and fulfill their destiny.

A Sacred Becoming

If you are going to have an equality of power in a relationship, you must center your entire being, work and evolution into the center of the Divine. You must master your own solitude, so that you can deepen that sacred relationship to the Divine. Also bring the sacred practice of meditationand prayer into the core of your life, so that the relationship can unfold in a mutually shared sacred experience.

An Acceptance of the Shadow

Both lovers must abandon any Hollywood sentimentality about what a relationship actually is. As your love becomes more evolved and conscious, so will each lover’s understanding of the other’s shadow. This can take an immense effort; it takes an immense effort to understand your own shadow, and an even greater effort to face and understand, without denial, illusion or repulsion, the shadow of another.

Death and Rebirth

If you are entering the evolutionary process, you must accept that it is never ending, and never stops unfolding. Evolution is fundamentally a cycle of death and rebirth, that repeats itself into higher and higher dimensions, and anyone involved in an authentic evolutionary relationship, must have the courage to go through the deaths and the rebirths the relationship will go through.

A Collective Consciousness

You must make a commitment for the relationship to not to be just a personal cultivation of pleasure. You must engage consciously in this relationship, to make both you and your partner stronger, to serve the planet, to recognize that the relationship is grounded in the Divine. That from the very beginning, the relationship has been dedicated to making both partners more powerful, more reflective, and more passionately engaged with their higher purpose to serve the Divine.